Numerous studies have indicated that fathers play an important role in a child’s development, right from birth through adulthood. These studies indicate that involved fathers help children tremendously, like better language skills and lesser behavioural problems. Father involvement also leads to emotional and intellectual growth of the children.
We hear about a mother’s role in the upbringing of the child but a father’s role is equally important. A father brings unique contributions to parenting that no one else can replicate. Fathers communicate and parent differently from mothers and children need both brands of parenting to grow up as well-adjusted adults.
How can dads be more involved?
Sometimes, it can be as simple as spending quality time with the children. Quality time, however, does not mean you promise to help with homework but when you sit on the table, you are distracted with your phone, tablet, TV, etc. Quality time means disconnecting from technology, even if it’s for an hour, and focussing solely on your child. It needn’t just be homework. Maybe you can cultivate a shared activity or hobby; or have dinner as a family. Focus on the activity rather than the time spent; that is what will determine quality.
Many times, a mere presence goes a long way to raising happy children. You don’t need to do anything but letting your child know that as their father, you care and are always around for advice, as a sounding board, or anything they might need. That much is enough to boost a child’s confidence.
A father’s role is not just about disciplining. Going for parent-teacher meetings, asking how their day in school went, helping with their homework, cheering them on sport’s days and annual days, etc. shows that you care about their progress.
The bond between a father and child is special. Like everything else, it takes work to create that bond. There are benefits to being an involved dad, so consider using some of these tips to get more involved in your child’s life. Both of you will enjoy the benefits for many years to come.